I read this the other day:
"Suppressed emotions don't just go away; instead they become toxic. They will keep showing up in your life, in some form of dysfunction or unhappiness, until you resolve them. Throughout life feeling your feelings is one of the healthiest and most productive things you can do" (A. Brandt, 2019, Psychology Today)
This inspired today's blog.
Even if difficult, the process of feeling your feelings is part of the healing journey...
One thing to remember is that we all experience the same situation differently. Part of how we deal with memorable events in our (both good and bad experiences), is by feeling our way through them. 'Being' in the moment allows you to accept your emotions for what they are and when you can observe your emotions from within, you are in a better mental space to accept these emotions for what they are, observe them and not let them control you.
We can never truly resolve our problems or trauma in life if we suppress our feelings and run away from them. Running away from them looks like... over-working, taking too much on, passive-aggressiveness, creating drama, etc.
We have to make conscious what is unconscious so we can free ourselves from the past and let go. In a previous post, I spoke about how holding on to the past traps us... it limits us from focusing on what is important right now and affects the choices we make toward the future...
It helps us to let go of any limiting beliefs, judgements and regrets that have been keeping us locked in the past rendering us incapable of being in the moment and focusing on what truly matters right now.
Focusing on your inner world, allows you to become more in-tuned with yourself emotionally, allowing you to process these feelings you have been holding onto for so long, and freeing yourself from the trap these feelings have created... mindfulness.
Being self-aware is fundamental in better understand who you are and in self-acceptance. It is the foundation for developing better relationships and responding to life events through compassion and based on your truths, rather than from a perspective of the past.
“Everyone has lots of ways of feeling. And all of those feelings are fine. It’s what we do with our feelings that matter in this life.”
- Fred Rogers.
Perfectly Imperfect,
Stephanie
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